A Letter to a Father about the Perfect Father

I know that as you read the title of this letter, you may be thinking, there is no perfect Father. I want you to know that yes you are right there is no perfect Father on earth, but there is a perfect Father in heaven who can help you become the Father that he created you to be.
As I write this letter to you the first thing that you should know that you are no accident you were predestined to be here today. I also want you to see if you are reading this letter and you are a Father, hoping to become a father or a male you didn’t just come across this letter by accident God purposed it.
I know that there may be people reading this letter with thoughts in their mind like “I don’t even know who my Father is.”, “My father abused me,” “My Father wasn’t a good example,” “My Father left me,” “My Father disowned me,” or “I don’t even know how to be a Father.” I want you to know that yes, these statement probably are true, but I am telling you that you have the power to change what you have seen and experienced with the help of God the Father.
In this Letter, I am giving you the strategy to help you become the best Father, Husband, and Leader that you can be.
The first thing you must know as a male is this; you were created in the likeness and image of God (Genesis 1:27). Being created in the image of God means you have God’s identity; it also means you are children of God. For example, when you create a child, that child carries your DNA, but you must give the child their concept of self. In other words, what are you speaking in your child’s life as they develop, what are you teaching them and what do they feel and see when they look at you as their Father. Are you teaching your children to be a good friend? Are you teaching your children what it means to be trustworthy and honest? Essential people in their lives develop a person’s self-concept. The reason you must understand this is because when you have no example to follow to become a good Father you can look at the perfect Father, and he will lead and guide you through the process of Fathering.
Identity is so important to children because if you don’t know who you are, you will try to become something other than yourself. For example, why do you think people focus so much on the brand of clothes that they wear or the type of car they drive? It is because it gives them a sense of identity.
As a Father, you must know that you are responsible for giving your children their identity and their self-concept.
The next thing I am about to tell you is so powerful, and I want you to grab hold of this and never let this go for the rest of your life. I mean, I do not care what you have done in the past. Ask God to forgive you and ask for his guidance from now on as you are being developed. What I am referring to is found in John 5:19. Jesus gave them this answer: “Very truly I tell you, the Son can do nothing by himself; he can do only what he SEES his Father doing, because whatever the Father does the Son also does.”
The things you do in private can your children do in public? What you do in secret do you want your children to do the same? The word of God says in Ephesians 5, “Be ye, therefore, imitators of God, as beloved children; and walk in love, even as Christ also loved you, and gave himself up for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God for an odor of a sweet smell.” These are the questions we should be asking ourselves as parents and individuals. I know that some are reading this and may think I didn’t have a Father to see so I don’t know or I saw things that I didn’t want to see from my Father or the Father figure I had in my home. I am here to tell you that there is a Father in heaven that can help you and heal you and change the way you think about that situation that you have experienced or are currently experiencing.
I pray that you ask God to show you a good Father figure and show you how through his word to teach you what you didn’t get or even know how to do in Jesus name.
The next thing you must know is that as a Father, your legacy or heritage is within your children. It’s not only the Father’s job to be a great model for their children, but it is also the Father’s job to leave a heritage to his children. When I say heritage, I don’t just mean property and business yes that is included but have you ever spoken to your children about your vision. What are you giving your children? Do your children even know how to continue what you have started? Are you cultivating the kids? Have you developed a sense of trust?
Trust is significant, and as a Father, you have been given the responsibility to develop your children’s sense of trust so that when you pass the baton to your children, you know that you can trust them with the heritage that you leave them.
I am going to give two bible verses where there was trust in action between the Father God and Jesus Christ. The first verse is found in Luke 23:46, “And when Jesus had cried with a loud voice, he said Father, into thy hands I commend my spirit.” Jesus gave God his entire body because number one he knew his purpose on the earth that was given by his Father God and number two, he completely trusted God. The next verse is found in Luke 22:29, And I confer on you a kingdom, just as my Father conferred one on me. The Father God gave Jesus an entire country to lead because he trusted his son.
As I close this letter, I want to leave you with this one particular statement that Jesus said to Philip when Philip asked to see the Father God and Jesus response was “Anyone who has seen me has seen the Father.”
Father God in heaven and in your son Jesus name we come to you saying Abba we need you in this generation. We say thank you for everything you have revealed to us. We thank you for loving us. We need you in this very hour to become the parents, fathers, mothers, and spouses that you have created us to be. God help us through your Holy Spirit to produce leaders out of our homes, work, and business. Help us to parent the right way. Lord forgive us for our ignorance in certain areas and teach us through your divine wisdom because we know that your wisdom is far above our human logic, and we say thank you for hearing our prayer and God we ask for you wisdom in parenting, marriage, and life because it is written in your word that if we ask for your wisdom you will give it to us liberally and we say thank you. In your son Jesus name. Amen

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