A Letter to a Father about Fear

I smile as I write this letter to you not because I never was afraid, but because I now know the truth. The truth about fear is this. “There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love (1 John 4:18).”

When I begin to meditate on this verse, I had questions. I asked God how can someone be perfected in love? How can you do this?  The answer was just this, trust as I continued to meditate and think on God’s word it hit me. Gods perfect love casts out fear. You need to trust God when he says I will never leave you nor forsake you. Also, when God says I will uphold you with my righteous right hand or ALL things will work for your good. You see if you trust everything God says you will respond to anything with love not out of emotion, not out of the fear of being hurt. You don’t have to protect your feelings protect your future by responding in love.

The reason I can share this with you is that I failed in this area, but after I failed, I got back up and believed in God’s word. I guess it isn’t a failure after all. Allow me to be transparent about my experience there was an instance where I believed that someone wronged me, so I became angry, and I expressed how devastated I was and that I never wanted to see them ever again. Then God’s perfect love lead me to 2 Timothy 2:24-26: “The servant of the Lord must not participate in quarrels but must be kind to everyone [even-tempered, preserving peace, and he must be], skilled in teaching, patient and tolerant when wronged. He must correct those who are in opposition with courtesy and gentleness in the hope that God may grant that they will repent and be led to the knowledge of the truth [accurately understanding and welcoming it] and that they may come to their senses and escape from the trap of the devil, having been held captive by him to do his will.

After reading 2 Timothy 2:24-26 I quickly knew what I had done wrong. I knew that I wasn’t tolerant, nor did I correct with courtesy and gentleness but despite all these things that were shown to me through the word of God I still believed that God always loves me. God was showing me that he loved me through his correction. I want you to know that this is perfect love. God’s perfect love taught me how to handle the situation. God’s perfect love corrected me and instructed me.

Through this learning process, my mind went to the book of Ephesians 5:25-27.  “Husbands love your wives [seek the highest good for her and surround her with a caring, unselfish love], just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her so that He might sanctify the church, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word [of God]. So that [in turn] He might present the church to Himself in glorious splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy [set apart for God] and blameless. -“ After reading these verses, the revelation of God’s love hit me hard. I realized God was washing me in his word so that he may present me without spot or wrinkle. The revelation of God’s love captured me and lifted the fear right out of me and created a desire in me to love in a way that I didn’t know how or that was even possible and to trust God. You see fear will not live in your life if you can believe God and trust everything he has spoken in the word of God. “Many hardships and perplexing circumstances confront the righteous, But the Lord rescues him from them ALL.” (Psalm 34:19)


Father God in the name of Jesus, it is written in your word that you have not given us the spirit of fear but of love, joy, power and a sound mind. God, we lay the spirit of fear at your feet and we put on the spirit of love and the spirit of trust. God help us to receive the perfect love that you desire to give us. God complete your love in us and through us. God do your perfect work in us, and we will know and proclaim that it was all you. In Jesus name, Amen.

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