A Letter to an Absent Father

There is so much to say about Fathers, but I must be careful because of so many emotions attached to this subject. The emotions are connected not because of hurt but because of the lack of knowledge.  As I write this letter, I want you to know that as a Father you are one powerful man and that your behavior can influence four generations. In the book of Numbers chapter 14 verse 18 it reads. “The Lord is slow to anger and abundant in loving kindness, forgiving wickedness, and transgression; but He will by no means clear the guilty, visiting (avenging) the wickedness and guilt of the Father’s on the children, to the third and fourth generations.” I give you this verse not to alarm you but to enlighten you. I know that perhaps your Father was not present or your Father’s, Father was not involved, but this absent behavior must stop. The reason it must cease is that it is affecting our communities which in turn affects our society and impacts our nation. I know you are wondering how one man can influence a nation. First, you should be aware whatever you produce you sustain. How do you sustain what you produce? You sustain what you produce by being an active Father.

The role of a Father is to protect, provide, cultivate, lead and also is the source and foundation of the family. If you don’t understand, then I challenge you to follow the example of Jesus’ relationship with God the Father. In John chapter 15 verse 9 it reads. “As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Now remain in my love.” This example teaches me that I learn how to love by the way that my father loves me. This also allows me to see that my self-worth comes from the value that is placed on me from my Father. Another example in the bible I want to emphasize on is when Jesus was being baptized by the John the Baptist. In the book of Matthew chapter 3 verse 17, it reads. “And a voice from heaven said, this is my son, whom I love; with him, I am well pleased.” God was saying I’m proud of you son. These are just small examples of what a father should be.

Now that you understand what the role of a Father is, what do you think happens when the foundation leaves or better yet does not get involved? All of those things move with the Father and is left for the Mother to balance alone. I must let you in on secret women were not built to carry the weight alone, but yet we still do it to the best of our abilities. Upon researching Absent Fathers, I came across some alarming statistics on http://www.fatherhood.org. I was devastated to find that almost half of female single parent homes live below the poverty level due to the absence of the Father in the home. Another alarming statistic was the fact that 279% of individuals without the Father in the home would be more likely to be involved with drugs and carry a gun than people with Father’s in the home. The reason I write these letters is to inform you of your value and worth. I want to dismantle the lie and expose the truth. The presence of a Father means more than you know. It is my prayer that this generation of Fathers would dismantle the dysfunction from previous generations and become men who empower and impact a future generation of foundational Fathers.

3 thoughts on “A Letter to an Absent Father

  1. I love this and so many men need to read this because it is fact that the men being absent in their children lives have an impact on them, regardless if its just sons dont know how to turn into men or daughters don’t know what their self-worth is or even both not knowing that feeling of a fatherly love. Many think it doesnt matter but it matters alot….this is and awesome post!!

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