As I write this letter, I must admit that I was a little reluctant at first, but I acquiesced in my decision. The reason I decided to write is that I know the greatest source of joy and pain is found in Love and Relationships. I write this letter because it is my prayer that we understand what we are doing to each other and to know that God didn’t design us to be this way. God wants us to be successful in every area of our life, and we have to get this right.
There is something I want to share that I read and that is “the key to all interpersonal relationships is the quality of your intrapersonal relationships.” In other words, the way you view yourself, your values, your perceptions, self-worth, self- value, and self-love determine how you will treat others. You must first love yourself so that you can love others. It is imperative that you understand self-love because in the book of Matthew chapter 22 verses 37-39 it reads. “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: Love your neighbor as yourself.”
How can you love someone else when you don’t even have self-love? I have to let you in on a secret, did you know that spending time with yourself is a sign of self-love. I’m talking about no television no music just you and your thoughts just enjoying your own company is healthy. The reason I am writing is that unhealthy relationships are affecting our children, homes, community, and societies and we have got to stop.
There are some things that you must know about love. Love is not emotion; love is an act of will. In other words, love is a choice. This is the type of love that we are supposed to have in relationships, the decision to love no matter what. Love is also a debt. Let me show you. In Romans chapter 13 verse 8 it reads. “Let no debt remain outstanding, except the continuing debt to love one another, for whoever loves others has fulfilled the law.” It’s in the word of God right there for us, but we overlook it. Forgive us Father God. The reason I say Father forgive us because if we can’t get out of the emotions of things, how on earth do you think you will be able to love your enemies. This is why you must know love is an act of will. You have to decide to love your enemies in spite of and yes love is that powerful. The reason I write with so much passion is that I hear people say things like “you handled that better than me” or “ I wouldn’t have done that” and my response is always it was God. God is love people. God created you so. Therefore, you have his love inside of you. You are valuable, you are important, and no human can meet your ego needs only God can. My prayer for you is that you love God then love yourself so that you can successfully love others even your enemies.